Do you feel comfortable discussing your weight with your mate? In a recent Fitness magazine article, the author argued the benefits of NOT discussing it with your mate. Not satisfied, I reached out to my FB community for their opinion. I was surprised by their responses.
“At least weekly”
“We are really good at talking about it”
“We talk about how gaining weight makes me feel”
And, the comment that I think ALL of us women can relate to:
“It’s definitely not hard for him to lose, but he gets it”.
I am happy that so many of my friends and colleagues feel supported by their mates on their journey to better health. Does this mean that a) men are more supportive of their mates –or– b) women are increasingly turning to their partners as their closest confidantes?
I’m not sure. My husband is extremely supportive of my efforts to manage my weight. However, he met me when I had already lost the bulk of my weight. When I asked him whether he would have dated the fat me, he was nakedly honest. He would not have been attracted to my former fat self.
We have never dieted together, nor shared an exercise challenge together. I don’t ask him if my jeans make me look fat or if notices more sag in my belly. There are two reasons for this.
- I am insanely private about my weight. The number on the scale is between me and the scale.
- I have never been comfortable talking about my weight with others.
My refusal to discuss the number on the scale does not mean I haven’t achieved weight bliss. On the contrary, I cherish my curves and am perfectly comfortable walking around in the buff. My husband knows everything there is to know about my body, which makes the number superfluous. The scale simply doesn’t talk, and neither will I.
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6 thoughts on “Discussing Your Weight with your Mate”
I do not like to talk about it and I feel pressure to be skinny by him. Thanks for hte advice
I can understand your reluctance to talk about it, Monica. It’s not an easy situation when you feel pressure. Let me know how I can help.
We talk about health and weight loss, but never numbers!
I always thought that a real classy lady does not discuss numbers- whether it’s her age, her weight, or her income 🙂 Thanks for commenting, Kristin!
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